"I'm not good at that."
"I could never be like her."
"I wish I could be talented in that."
"I wish I had her personality."
"I hate that I _______."
The list goes on and on.
It's so easy to see what we are not good at and where we lack. So much so, we don't truly appreciate what we are insanely talented in and what we do have that is uniquely special to us.
Why is that?
- One reason is because your talents are so innate and natural to you, you have difficultly even identifying what your unique talents and strengths really are.
- The second reason is that you don't spend time appreciating your unique talents.
- The third reason is that you may not be investing the time to truly learn about your talents and what they mean to your life and business.
- The fourth reason is because you may not leverage them effectively if you don't learn what they are and what they mean. Therefore, because they are underutilized, they don't seem valuable.
- The last reason is that you see the way others are doing things (because they have achieved "success" in your eyes), but you fail to recognize that your talents will bring you success in your own way, not someone else's way. You fail to realize that you, yourself, have a unique way of reaching success using your talents and strengths.
This inner critic can be loud. Very loud.
Showing your strengths appreciation and showing yourself compassion for who you are (and who you aren't) is the key to stopping that inner critic.
Self-compassion means being gentle, kind, and understanding with yourself. Accepting that you are not perfect and that there is potential for learning and growth in every mistake you make (Neff, 2003).
By increasing your knowledge about yourself through self-compassion, you also gain clarity about your limitations (weaknesses), which can ultimately improve your mindset and life (and business!).
Make peace with your inner critic
Here are five steps to practice self-compassion and make peace with your inner critic:
Step 1: Practice Forgiveness
Stop punishing yourself for your mistakes and your weaknesses. You are not perfect and the sooner you can accept that, the sooner you will find peace in who you are.
You are valued by your clients, peers, friends, and family for who you are, not for who you are not. Instead of overvaluing what you are not and undervaluing who you, practice valuing who you are, flaws and all.
Step 2: Employ a Growth Mindset
Mindset is so powerful. There have been studies and research done on mindset and how it affects your overall wellbeing and success. Having a positive growth mindset will increase your happiness and success level.
When facing situations in life and business, focus on what you can learn from it; find meaning and purpose.
When you find you are comparing yourself with others (which happens way too often in this online entrepreneurial world), focusing on finding inspiration in their successes and strengths instead than feeling threatened or not good enough.
A workbook designed to help you embrace your strengths and make peace with your inner critic. Includes 5 positive, strength affirmations.
Step 3: Express Gratitude
Showing your talents and strengths gratitude and appreciation can go so far. Appreciating what you have, right now, and appreciating your natural talents and strengths will give you freedom to show up unapologetically as your authentic self.
Using a gratitude journal, for example, can help shed light on how amazing you truly are...just as you are.
Step 4: Find the Right Level of Generosity
With most things in life, there is give and take. Finding the right balance between this give and take will benefit your wellbeing the most.
If you only give, give, give, and never take, you will likely find yourself exhausted and possibly resentful. If you only take, take, take, and never give, others will likely start resenting you.
But, if you can give and take, ensuring to take care of others and yourself, you can find happiness and more success. Offer up your strengths to others (give), but know when you need the support of other people's strengths as well (take).
Step 5: Be Mindful
Being mindful of what your strengths and weaknesses are will give you the power to better utilize strengths and minimize or manage your weaknesses.
Your talents are the way you naturally think, feel, and behave. Be mindful of when you are working in your natural way versus when you are not. The more you can make shifts to better manage your weaknesses, it will allow you to spend more time working in your strengths zone (aka: zone of genius).
you are (more than) good enough
You, my friend, are good enough, just as you are. In fact, you're more than good. You're one-of-a-kind and pretty freaking amazing! Show yourself some compassion, make peace with your inner critic, and success will sure to follow.
The Daily Mindset printable planner pages are designed to help set the tone for a productive, positive, confident day, followed by reflection at the day’s end.
Write a mantra, record your daily affirmations, and reflect on your daily activities and accomplishments. Also includes a free journaling page to journal on anything that comes to mind.